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Sadly I won’t be going to the Fenway Health Women’s Dinner this year due to some obligations here at Beck’s Cafe.  BUT, if you can go you should.  It’s a great night. The food is wonderful, everyone is shiney gorgeous, and Kate Clinton is hilarious.   You can get tickets until about 12PM today, Friday March 12th,  by calling Fenway Health at 617-927-6350

The event raises money for health programs that Fenway Health offers to the community.  About 1200 lesbian, bi, and transgender women with their supporters and allies will be there to celebrate women’s health and raise money to implement it through Fenway Health.  It’s a fun time and for a great cause.  Mayor Menino and Governor Patrick are generally there as well so you can bet it’ll be swarming with lots of bling and fun. This year Congresswoman Tammy Baldwin will receive the Dr. Susan M. Love Award

So, while I can’t be there I’m raising a big, steaming mug of coffee to say Best of Luck to you June, Deb and Molly for this year’s event!!

Waltham House is a group home for “designed to provide a safe and supportive living environment for up to 12 gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender (GLBT) youth ages 14-18. The program also serves youth who may be questioning (Q) their sexual orientation and/or gender identity.”   You can learn more about Waltham House by visiting their web site here.

That’s a great thing since Mona Rae Mason from the Transgender Project has noted that the percentage of homeless kids who are transgender is very high (see her post, “The Coming Out Party is Over“).  Places like Waltham House are safe places that help protect and nurture some of the kids.

But they often need money to do their job so Waltham House is sponsoring a Casino Night Fund Raiser on April 27th starting at 6PM at Club Cafe in Boston.  Sounds like a good cause doesn’t it?    You can learn more about this fund raiser so you can attend and have fun at this link, “Waltham House Casino Night

Discrimination still lives in America and right here in the Northeast no less. Not that such should come as a surprise. The Brazilians who come to our shores are sometimes harassed for just being here, women are discriminated against by being pigeon holed in entry level jobs, and transgender persons are too for just being who they are. You can see a whole list of what’s current in discrimination in Massachusetts by checking this quick Google search link in fact.

The most current hot and public issue in the transgender community though on discrimination is the Capone’s of Peabody MA vs. SISTERS discrimination affair. To bring our readers up to speed, SISTERS, a Boston area Social and Support Group visited Capone’s on several occasions until one day, they attempted to visit to have a few drinks and dance and then there were told they could not come in and that they were not welcome. If it had been a private club that would have been that. But it was an open to the public venue and so, such behavior by Capone’s, really sounded like discrimination. SISTERS pushed the issue to the Peabody licensing board, in a professional and non-confrontational manner, and now the issue is in mediation. This whole thing might seem like a small issue but it’s not. It’s discrimination. Do all persons have to like all other persons regardless of race, gender, sex, or nationality. No, this isn’t about thought police. But people do have to treat each other with respect. And that’s what this issue is about.

Kudos to Ashley Bottoms and the SISTERS FAMILY for pushing this issue the right way and the professional way to bring about positive change.

You can catch up on all the back story at:

  1. The Salem News
  2. Boston.com
  3. Peabody Lynnfield Weekly News
  4. Urban Alternatives
  5. Matt Kailey at Examiner.com

Update
2-26-2010: MTPC has issued a statement regarding the incident.  The last paragraph of their statement is imporant to note,

“MTPC calls upon the transgender community to rally behind the pending H1728/S1687 Transgender Civil Rights act that would finally establish clear legal guidelines and remedies for situations such as the one at Capone’s. There is no good reason why any good citizens of our Commonwealth should be treated in a demeaning fashion, and the law should reflect our state’s broad consensus in this.”

Amen to that!

Beck’s Cafe wishes to congratulate Boston’s own Grace Sterling Stowell for her being honored with the 2010 Sue J. Hyde Activism Award for Longevity in the Movement.   She received the award for her being, “an activist and leader in the social justice and LGBT communities for more than 35 years.”

Grace is the Executive Director for BAGLY, the Boston Alliance of Gay, Lesbian, Bi-Sexual and Transgender Youth.  BAGLY provides “weekly and monthly social activities and special events for people ages 22 and under. These activities provide an opportunity for youth to socialize, have fun and develop a sense of personal and community identity.”

So congratulations Grace and thank you for your work leading BAGLY to help so many GLBT youth in Greater Boston!

For those who can free up the time, today is Massachusetts Transgender Equality Lobby Day. The event is led by MTPC and runs from 2PM-5PM. Participants will meet at Nurses Hall in the Massachusetts State House.

You get more details at MTPC’s announcement here:
http://www.masstpc.org/legislation/lobbyday10.shtml

The importance of todays lobbying effort is that our transgender equality bill is stuck in the MA judiciary commitee and needs a little push. If you can’t attend today (as I cannot) an email or call to your representative would help too.

Linda, at A&A Laser, Electrolysis and Skin Care is my hair removal savior.  She’s been zapping and electrocuting me for some time and anything she does to me, beats my hair removal horror of 2006.   But aside from the loving torture I so willingly subject myself too she always has the light touch too with facials.

A&A, in Newton MA, is offering Express Facials now, for a limited time, for $30 for 30 minutes!   I asked what the catch was and here’s the details on what they’ll do for your face:

  • Cleanse
  • Tone
  • Moisturize
  • Exfoliate
  • Teach you how to take care of your skin

For $30 that’s a great deal.   If you make an appointment, please tell them Becki sent you.   Beck’s Cafe doesn’t make any money from this and you won’t get a better deal than the $30, but it’ll be nice for her to know that some of us do really listen to her suggestions to take care of our skin!

Ginger Burr is offering a free teleclass, “From Corporate Suit to Home Office PJ’s, What’s an Entrepreneurial Woman To Wear?“  Tuesday, January 5, 2010 – 4:00 pm Eastern Time. What caught my eye in reading her invite to her class was this line:

Women are starting their own businesses in record numbers, and from what these enterprising women say, it would not be surprising to find out that, as a result, the sales of pajama bottoms and sweatshirts have soared!

The facts on women entrepreneurship are hot; Between 1997 and 2002 women owned firms grew by 19.8% while all U.S. firms grew by 7% (SCORE Small Biz Stats & Trends)  The facts on women’s PJ sales growth I can’t find any data on – but I bet Ginger is right. When I’ve worked from home during long periods assigned to Asia or Europe PJ bottoms and comfy sweatshirts were easy!

Hmmm…might be time to reverse the trend and get that business a little extra bling.  Learn how at Ginger’s free teleclass.

Last April, friends Paula and Michelle and 300 others spent the day at the Massachusetts State House to lobby for Transgender Equality.   I chronicled last year’s little story at Beck’s Cafe, “Trans Civil Rights Lobby Day: Rountable with Michelle, Paula and Rebecca“.   And here we are a year later and it’s time once again for another lobby day!

As I heard Diego Sanchez say once in a meeting,  “We aren’t looking for any special rights; just the ones we somehow lost because we are trans”.   Well put and precisely the point of the outing.   So here are the details for all of you who can join in:

  • Date: Thursday January 21
  • Time: 2PM-5PM
  • Location:  Nurses Hall, Massachusetts State House

More details are at MTPC’s site, “Transgender Lobby Equality Day, 2010

The Harp is a beautiful instrument and I actually know someone who plays it well. Her name is Aster.

Aster is as unassuming as she is talented. Creative to the core, she sews her own clothing. Helpful without a whine, she’ll take on a task be it cleaning a house for a friend or machining parts for a NASA re-entry vehicle. Giving, often donating money she earns to help others. Musical too, accomplished in flute, guitar and harp.  And she’s a transgender woman to boot.

Oh did I mention she plays the Harp?  Yes harp, as in classical music harp

When I first met Aster, harp is the last thing I would think she would play but big as life as I walked around the corner to the performance room in a transgender social and support club I belong to, TCNE, there it was, a dang harp like you find in classical orchestras! At first I couldn’t believe what I was seeing but then, Aster sat down and played. I was amazed at both her talent and the incredible music that comes from such an instrument. Aster writes virtually all of her own compositions.

Aster’s debut CD is simply entitled, “Music for Harp”. I’ve included a cut from her CD. You can click to Aster Shepherd The Cotswold Ram for a listen from her CD.  Aster plays in small venues in and around New England as she makes her home in the Boston area. If any of our readers is looking for some fantastic music as background or as a concert, just drop us a line here at Beck’s Cafe Email and we can introduce you.

Joanne Herman’s been making the scene in various interviews and signings on her new book, “Transgender Explained for Those Who are Not“.   Her informal book tour has taken her now to San Francisco where Sue Kwon interviewed Joanne regarding her book, who it was written for, and what kind of resource her book can be to understand transgender people.

Grab that mug of hot morning blend bold brew and have a watch; well worth the five minutes or so the interview takes by clicking over to CBS in SF: Sue Kwon speaks with JoAnne Herman, author, “Transgender Explained for Those Who are Not”.

I know many of our readers are fashionsita coffee swillers at heart and wouldn’t be caught in a coma at Walmart shopping for fashion, but, you really CAN find a bargain there.  My post, “Wedding Bell Blues” details my amazing find of an outfit at Walmart that I dressed up with some very inexpensive but not cheap gold jewelry from a consigment shop and a pashima shawl also from a consignment shop.  The gold flecks in my new tunic matched the very pretty consignment shop gold jewlery and, with some inexpensive heels from Payless Shoes, voila!  I was ready for my first wedding  The pashima shawl topped off my understated by smart outfit to really glam me up.  Who woulda thought that was possible?

The underlying message you might be reading into this perky post is that fashion is not about price it’s about choosing what’s right for you and your body, what dresses you up appropriate to the venue and what makes you feel good about  you.  When you look good, you feel good about yourself and your ready to take on the world!

One woman who has serious style and can stretch a buck is Punky Style; she really has an amazing sense of style and budget.  She’s big on vintage and there’s lots to learn from what she has to say and what she has to show too.

Every two weeks or so, my little in box at Beck’s Cafe gets a little email called, “The List: Boston’s Queer Agenda“.  It used to be called Hannah’s List and now simply known as The List.  This little gem provides an amazing amount of networking using simple email and text.  It’s simple, powerful, and encourages, as the folks at The List write:

networking and centralizes information about upcoming events, volunteer and job opportunities, apartment postings and community announcements.

It’s focus is to help various groups, including transgender people, to network, find housing, possibly find a job and find opportunities to volunteer and give back.   Just visit The List and sign up to get plugged in :)

Back in October I had the pleasure, along with friend Paula Howard, of visiting The Samaritans here in Massachusetts to provide a introduction on who transgender people are.  It seems they get ALOT of call from trans-folk; which in one respect is very unsettling given what The Samaritans are known for:

Suicide Prevention!

Of course, our community is a little at risk for this.  As we quoted in our earlier shocking news about Christine Daniels, suicide planning and actually execution are 7x-10x higher in our little transgender community than in normal groups!  My aren’t we special!!

On a personal note, I’ve lost two friends to this sad decision to take ones own life.  To be frank, it makes me cry every time I think of these two women since their deaths were so needless.  I think at some point we’ll have to delve into what would make someone  become so hopeless that suicide becomes a “rational” choice.  It never, ever is of course as the successful suicidist never gets to write the end of their own personal life story with anything but a sad ending.  We can’t let this go on folks.  Really, we just can’t.

Besides, who else is going to keep MAC in business if we aren’t around?

The people at The Samaritans were wonderful.  Paula and I discussed about who trans-people are, what makes us trans and what pressures we face as transgender men and women.  Things like jobs, family and societal acceptance and one of the biggest things of all, self-acceptance of ourselves as people with dreams, ambitions, and lives fully worth living.  They listened with attentive ears and great follow on questions.

Interestingly, the good folk at Samaritans shared that many times when transgender people call them the key thing the caller is needing is….acceptance.   Just someone who can listen to them and who will take them seriously.

Towards the end of our session we all came to the conclusion that transgender people (no matter where on their journey they are) aren’t really that different from anyone else.  We just want to be accepted, to be taken seriously, and then to go on with our lives.   It was nice to know The Samaritans were there, with a listening ear, just to take that call.

New England is blessed to have a number of excellent conferences dealing with transgender issues.  First Event, Fantasia Fair, Translating Identities, Transcending Boundaries, and Transgender Lives, all provide a terrific opportunity to meet others, learn about yourself, get medical, therapy or other knowledge important to living well and healthy lives, and to have some fun.  All of these conferences tend to have an open call for workshop presenters, which affords budding educators on a variety of topics the opportunity to help others.  Pretty neat!

Transgender Lives has put out a call for such workshop presenters and the deadline to provide them with your concept is November 15th.  So if giving a workshop on a topic that may be important to the transgender community is up your alley, have a visit to the Transgender Lives site and send your form in.

IFGE, the International Foundation for Gender Education, is one of the leading organizations for education of the general public on transgender issues.  They have a number of great programs, one of which is the Trinity Award, in the words of Yvonne Cook-Riley, Awards Committee Chair,

The Trinity Awards honor our heroes: living transgender persons who have performed extraordinary acts of courage and love in service to the transgender community.  Participation across the entire transgender community, its allies and friends, is essential to the awards-nominating process.

The 2010 Trinity Award will be presented at the IFGE Annual Conference – The Capital Conference, to be held at the Hilton Mark Plaza Hotel in Alexandria, Virginia April 22-25, 2010

Nominations for this prestigious award must be submitted no later than November 20, 2009.  See the IFGE Site announcement for more details.

Transgender Health Access in Massachusetts: A Community Health Care Survey

MTPC is creating a plan in order to advocate for resources, support,and further services for the transgender community that will hopefully lead to eliminating transgender health disparities in Massachusetts. The findings from the survey and our state wide health care community forums will inform MTPC’s health care advocacy plan.

Purpose of the Survey:

  • Gather experiences and needs of the transgender community when it comes to access of health care and quality of care.
  • Inform MTPC, policy makers, and key stakeholders about the needs,gaps, and current access to health care and social services of the Massachusetts transgender communities.

To take this anonymous survey please go to: MTPC Health Care Survey 2009

For more info or questions please ping:

Gunner Scott
Director
Massachusetts Transgender Political Coalition
PO Box 301897, Jamaica Plain, MA 02130
617-778-0519
gscott@masstpc.org
http://www.masstpc.org

Femulate is the center of the known blog universe.

This, dear readers, is a fact.

Not, I AM Transgendered, en|Gender, Beck’s Cafe, or a host of other well known, well read, nails broken whilst typing, brows furrowed in focused writing, and dog eared blogs….no….as well honed as these others may be, Femulate is indeed Queen.

This realization dawned on many of us two weeks ago.

(overheard whilst I drank goblets of cheap wine with dear, super smart, beer chugging chica, Michelle at a local run down dive inhabited by drunk truckers, out of work physicists, and dangerous women)

Becki: “Did you see that article on Tall Women on Femulate? That Staci has a great list. She makes me feel so normal”
Michelle: “So true Becki, so true. You know, I think she’s just like me actually the way she glides effortlessly through both genders. I just love her.”

I didn’t think anything of my interaction with Michelle. I mean, we had been drinking afterall.

Then it happened, again, amongst a group of women who were both well heeled and well known and I realized something cosmic was happening.

As many of my jittery, caffeine addicted, readers know, Beckscafe was in Provincetown for Women’s Week ending and Fantasia Fair’s beginning. That’s a cosmic nexus by itself. But then the real planetary alignment happened. Sitting at lunch at the Crowne and Anchor in Provincetown, with Miqqui Gilbert (yes THE Miqqi Gilbert) and Jamie Dailey, my colleague in marketing crime on the conferenc scene, and two new friends, Robin and Abbey.

Becki: “Well Miqqi I write a blog, as you may know, and I found your name on the web as I did research on various and odd topics.” (I smile my best Ms. Sophisticate Smile; New England clam chowder smeared across my MAC lipsticked lips)
Miqqi: “I read your blog; on occassion”
Becki: (me beaming) “Why thank you SO MUCH Miqqi. You know, another great blog is that Femulate blog. Great reading. I get so much traffic to Beck’s Cafe from her too.”
Jamie: (light dawning on her face look)“Femulate blog…(she turns to Miqqi)…You know, Miqqi, I think our Fantasia Fair web site gets all its traffic from Femulate too!”

Jamie and I stare at each other and we realize that Femulate has become the center of our known blog universe!

So go have a look. I mean, EVERYONE gets their traffic from her so go ahead…just pick up your ice espresso, mocca thingy a gogo and go ahead…go see Femulate; you’ll see for yourself…she really IS the center of the blog universe :)

Well Fall is in the air in New England and a bit of Winter too if you woke up Friday morning in New England.  Yes, fair reader, we had snow! Not a whole bunch, just an inch or two but enough to remind us all that Winter’s white blanket of love will soon be on us. But, that’s not the reason I’m writing. It’s more about what’s happening down in Provincetown!

Beck’s Cafe will be down in Provincetown, MA this weekend for two fabulous events. One is the end of Women’s Week, the other is the beginning of Fantasia Fair.

If you can’t find anything to do this weekend you really NEED to come to Provincetown. There is something for everyone in every price bracket. And let met tell you, the Cafe’s till is lookin’ lighter these days so I’m excited about the range of fun activities that are open.

The Women’s Week Schedule is jammed more full than an undersized bra and here’s a couple of things that our barrista’s would recommend:

  • Kate Clinton is doing several shows or talks or book signings all day.   She’s hilariously funny and has a truly keen sense of today’s culture.   See her at one of the four or five places she’s at on Saturday October 17.
  • The 25th Anniversary Retro Disco Dance Party is happening at 9PM at Paramount at The Crown & Anchor, 247 Commercial Street.  It’s $5 and will have you singing, Brick House, all night long I’m sure!
  • All The King’s Men, New England’s Premiere Drag-King Troupe, will be at The Art House on Commercial St. 9PM
  • There is way, way too much fun happening to list much more of it here from the “Women of Color & Friends Party” to book signings, wine tastings and more.

So what about Fantasia Fair?  The actual start date is October 18th, but, many visitors come into town on Saturday to get settled in.  So if you are attending Fantasia Fair do not hide in your room!  You are in one of the friendliest cities for lgbt folk and that includes all transgender folk.  So this means you too, yes YOU reading Beck’s Cafe and sipping your morning java.

If you are with friends or make some new ones, well, you’ve got an instant party in front of ya!   Choose any of the Women’s Week events from their calendar and attend and you’ll have a blast!  Or you could go grab some food and the wonderful ambiance of P-Town at these sponsors of Fantasia Fair:

Voices Together is refreshing , thought provoking and it’s sobering when you consider where the writers have come from.  They are either currently homeless or formerly homeless women.   This blog of unique women’s words is a collaboration between the Center for New Words and On The Rise.  Their goal?

We give voice to women whose experiences, creativity, and insights are often unrecognized and undervalued. Through various avenues of expression, we will offer insights into our experiences and to the reality of homelessness.

Well worth a read with that first cup of coffee you have there this morning :)    Please click on over to the Voices Together Blog

This Thursday, October 8, there is a very special event happening here in Boston that you are all invited too, it’s called, “TransMasculine Journeys – Finding Our Places in the World – A night of readings by Matt Kailey, Max Wolf Valerio, & Cameron Partridge Reflecting on Lou Sullivan, Michael Dillon and themselves. Discussions to follow. At the end of the evening Matt Kailey and Max Wolf Valerio will sign copies of the their books, Just Add Hormones and The Testosterone Files.

Many of us women-folk don’t really understand the men in our community. We think we do, but, often times our stereotypes cloud our knowing these amazing guys. This night is sure to be extra special and enlightening for everyone who attends. Here’s more of the detail:

Where & When?

  • Thursday, October 8, 2009, 7-9pm
  • St. Luke’s and St. Margaret’s Episcopal Church, 5 St. Lukes Road, Allston, MA Corner of Brighton Ave & St. Lukes Road, one block from the Packard’s Corner T-stop The event is free and open to the public. Donations for the speakers will be appreciated.

What about those reading?

  • Max Wolf Valerio is a poet and writer, sometime actor, and long transitioned trans man who remembers Lou Sullivan and a time when the FTM Newsletter was one of the only sources of communication for trans men and their allies. The Testosterone Files (Seal Press) is his memoir about his first five years on testosterone. A poet, who has been writing, performing and reading his work for thirty years, Max began transition in 1989. He has appeared in many films and documentaries including the “Max” short in “Female Misbehavior” and “Gendernauts” both by German Director Monika Treut, and in “You Don’t Know Dick – Courageous Hearts of Transsexual Men,” “Octopus Alarm,” and “Unhung Heroes” — the FTM comedy and the new “Maggots and Men”.
  • Rev. Dr. Cameron Partridge is a scholar of religion and gender/sexuality studies and is the vicar of St. Luke’s and St. Margaret’s Episcopal Church. One of his projects is to bring to publication the memoir of Michael Dillon.

Joanne Herman has been a key figure for alot of us in the transgender community. I actually met her at the Fenway Women’s Dinner in 2009. She did one of the bravest things I think I’ve ever seen anyone do: she outed herself in front of like, 1000 women. She probably knew 200 of them but the other 800? I doubt it! But they know her now. Her act was selfless in that she was trying to underscore to the attendees that we do exist. Then she promptly greeted me and some other friends and implored us to get involved and to not sit on the sidelines. Pretty powerful stuff.

So, I follow Ms. Herman on Twitter and what pops up but that she’s writing a book. And now it’s published and I thought all our wonderful readers would like to know.

Entitled, “Transgender Explained For Those Who Are Not“, here’s a bit about the book from the publisher:

Joanne Herman, a transgender woman who read everything in sight to understand her own gender incongruity, has been helping others with her non-complicated explanations of transgender for almost a decade. Now she has written down her explanations for all to read in Transgender Explained For Those Who Are Not. Organized by topic into short, easy-to-read chapters, Transgender Explained is perfect for parents, relatives, colleagues, friends, allies and even journalists who want to quickly get up to speed on what it means to be transgender.

Joanne claims the book contains many of the excellent essays from her equally excellent web site, http://www.joanneherman.com/ She’s a good writer, a smart businesswoman and a courageous sister. You can pick up a copy of her book at her publisher’s site Authorhouse; Transgender Explained For Those Who Are Not

We blogged about Ms. Mason before back in August in our post, “Mona Rae Mason on some facts from The Transgender Project“.  Well, looks like she’ll be to Boston in chilly January in the flesh at the First Event Transgender Conference in Peabody, MA, January 13-17, 2010.

You can read all about her coming to present, in person, the findings from the U.S. National Institute of Health (NIH) funded Transgender Project study at TCNE’s Press Release.

Lisa Gayle is the author of “Emerald Spirit”, a new book exploring themes around gender and life transition, immortality and facing realities as a woman. Yesterday, in part 1, we covered a little about “Emerald Spirit’s” main character and a little about Lisa herself. In part 2, Lisa and I will be chatting about Lisa’s favorite scenes from her book, how her friend got her motivated, and what’s next for Lisa?

Becki: Lisa, can you give us one or two of your favorite scenes from your book?
Lisa: (laughs) Wouldn’t that be giving away too much? I think my favorite is the awakening. Another one that was fun to write was when she meets her old neighbor in San Diego and learns about her former life. I also like the playful stuff that happens as Susan grows accustomed to being a woman and finds she likes men.

Becki: Why write a transgender fiction book now? And since you wrote it some time ago, why publish now?
Lisa: Actually this is in the past. I started this book probably ten years ago and never finished until last year. I had gotten just so far and got distracted from the project for a long time. I put it aside and didn’t think much about it. Besides I really didn’t know how I wanted it to end. It was my friend, Carollyn Olson, who pushed me to finish it.

Carollyn had just published her first novel, “Deception” and I mentioned that I had this thing I was working on. I sent her the unfinished manuscript and she wrote back Shouting at me “OH MY GOD!!!! YOU HAVE TO FINISH THIS!” She got me to write the ending and have it published.

Becki: How does the theme of death and re-birth play into your main characters life and does that mirror or relate to the experience of other transpeople (or other people in other life transitions all of them not necessarily transgender).
Lisa: You know, I hadn’t really thought of it in such allegorical terms but I suppose it really does because transitioning is really a death and rebirth. You leave one life behind and start a new one.. Initially it was just an exploration of feelings and speculations but it does work on that level as well.

It also has some element of everyone’s wish for immortality, or at least longer life or a second try at getting life right. OK, I’m no longer 60 years old and winding down. Suddenly, I’m 20 and I have a chance to not make those stupid mistakes I made all my life. I have the wisdom of my 60 years and a new fresh body. Of course if’s female now but hey, won’t that be an interesting kick?

Becki: Besides Gordon, can you give our readers any description and insight into another important character in your book and how you came to bring this person to life in your book?
Lisa: Here’s the romance novel reader/writer showing up. Greg is her knight in shining armor. Susan is a smart, capable and strong woman, but she has to face some realities that she never considered as a male. Primary is that she is discriminated against and harassed because she is a woman. This was something she never saw even in her own company until it was directed at her. It was going on when she was a man but she was too involved in other things to see it. She also realizes that while she has skills and is not a tiny woman, she has physical limitations simply because most of these bad people she encounters are so much larger and more physically powerful than she is. She needs someone like Greg to fill that need. Doesn’t hurt that he’s a handsome hunk either. I made Greg kind of an ideal but gave him a past that he doesn’t talk about and that might be something she really doesn’t want to know about. He’s done some things that might not be suitable for all audiences. That’s his mystery.

And every story needs a villain. It’s more interesting when that villain is someone the hero/heroine knows and doesn’t suspect. I had fun making that character pretty slimy. I confess to have modeled him after someone I know. So he’s kind of a real person. That part was a vicarious giggle for me.

Becki: Your smart, gorgeous, a great friend, and devoted parent and spouse, so now a published author, what’s up next on the horizon for you Lisa?
Lisa: Flattery will get you a free copy of the book! (laughs) I really don’t know what’s next. I’m working on a new story that will feature a detective who crossdresses, very convincingly, to work on a big case. I’ve also agreed to allow Carollyn to use the characters in my book in her new novel “Breaking Point”. I’ve been an advisor and consultant on that project as well as writing a chapter or so for it.

Right now, I’m being Dad to my teenage daughter who is smart, talented and beautiful (Can’t tell I’m proud of her, can you?), and trying to stay afloat in the recession. I’ve been appointed Assistant PostMistress for the Vanity Club, which is a wonderful online sorority that counts some of the most beautiful trans-women in the world as members. I’ll be going to the Lake Erie Gala this November.

I’ll let you know when the newest book becomes available.

Becki: Lisa I hope you do! And thanks so much for taking the time to visit with us at Beck’s Cafe

Lisa Gayle is both beautiful and funny. An upstate NY resident and a proud parent, she helps to bring the Erie Gala Transgender Conference to life every year in Erie PA. She’s also a budding author with a new book that explores questions of gender and life transition, immortality and facing realities as a woman she could have never considered as a man. I caught up with Ms. Gayle for coffee and a chat about her new book, “Emerald Spirit”.

Becki: What led you to write your book?
Lisa: I spent my whole professional career in an office. Got my degree in accounting of all things and I hated it. I was never a detail-oriented person. (Is that right brain or left? I can never remember.) I was always more interested in the arts. My favorite subjects in school were always English and the arts. I enjoyed writing short stories bur never thought I could put together a story that would be suitable for a book. This story didn’t start out as a book either. I just started writing about this idea I had and it kept growing.

Becki: So the story kind of took on a life of it’s own, or, maybe picked you up and carried you on a journey to see it written! Have you always written, what were some of your earliest works?
Lisa: Always. I made up elaborate stories as far back as I can remember.

I have a series of short stories, mostly in the Twilight Zone kind of genre that I may publish someday. Some of these date back to my college days, back when there were still dinosaurs roaming around. I need to finish the three or four ideas I have in progress before that compilation could be book length.

My favorite has to be “The Foxhole”. It’s about a soldier in war who finds himself in a foxhole with a few other GI’s whom he does not know. As they shelter from enemy fire there, they discover that they are not even fighting the same war. One is from Viet Nam, another fought in WWII and another Korea.

I also adapted a short story by Robert Sheckley, “The King Wishes” into a stage play. I would love to produce that for the stage one day.

Becki: I bet the range of characters in your stories is very wide. Can you tell us how you come up with your main character for “Emerald Spirit” Gordon who becomes Susan?
Lisa: Susan wasn’t really a character until later in the process. I started writing not about a specific person but about an idea. What would it be like to wake up in a strange hospital and find that I was no longer a male? But not just a male who had say, undergone SRS, perhaps by accident, (you know the old urban myths: the hospital got the wrong patient for the transplant surgery and now this guy has someone else’s heart and there was nothing wrong with his. That kind of thing.) but that he, now she, was 100% genetic female. So when you read it, the chapter in which that happens is the first part written. After a while I thought there was a larger story that could be told. It expanded in both directions from there. Eventually Susan needed to be a real person.

Becki: The main character, Gordon Carson, with his millionaire, wealth and expensive plane sounds similar to a Howard Hughes or Richard Branson, what led you to create a character like Gordon with his unique attributes?
Lisa: I needed to have someone with a great deal to lose. Someone for whom this sudden change would be even more devastating than the obvious physical changes. It didn’t hurt to give him the means to have done so many things in his life that would come in handy during the story. Making him wealthy, intelligent and successful provided all that.

(tomorrow in part 2:  Lisa’s favorite scenes from her book “Emerald Spirit”, how her friend got her motivated, and what’s next for Lisa?)

Though it’s been around for 51 years, Club Passim was not a place I ever went to.  I’m not sure why though I have some ideas I can share over coffee sometime.  But Thursday night a dear friend Denise emailed and said, “Hey, what are you doing…want to go to a concert at Passim in Cambridge?”

Friday night commuting is a nightmare so I had to think about it for, oh, 32 seconds.

“Yeah sure I’ll go this will be fun”.   And so we attended and saw these two amazing folk singing women:

Holy COW were they good.  And so now the brief review…since as usual I am running late!   And speaking of running late, getting to Cambridge from the South Shore was only 2.5 hours worth of commute on a Friday night.  Talk about sucking.  But the ride was oh so worth it.

And of course, even walking in Cambridge I got lost.  I’m sure I looked like a tourist, eyes squinting, walking up one street after another in Cambridge, asking directions and only by accident stumbling into Club Passim.  But find it I did.

The food at Passim is great.   The restaurant that is co-located with them is called Veggie Planet.   Seeing that I’m on the Cavewoman diet and actually losing weight this fare was right on target for my palate.   We had the Caeser Salad on some kind of veggie pizza thing.  I was good and had water to drink.   And it was very good.   The post-salad coffee was good too: robust, dark and soothing.  And the wait staff was friendly and smiled.  And for once in the past month it actually was not raining in Massachusetts…Halleluijah!

Amy was the opener (starter?) and she was the more brooding and quiet of the two in her style.  An excellent voice with terrific lyrics, Amy, who had been enjoying the kind hospitality of Toronto Pearson’s Airport earlier in the day (having spent alot of time there in the past I can tell ya it’s not so bad BUT 6 hours plus in any airport will make you want to go into a coma), literally got off the plane and into Passim and was there crooning away.  She’s terrific kind coffee swillers so have a peak at her site here http://www.amycampbell.ca/ and enjoy!

Natalia, a friend of my friend Denise (so now I have another friend who has famous friends, not bad!) was her own genre. First, this woman can PICK an guitar. I thought she had like 5 instruments on stage not just one and she was fabulous in making her guitar do things that I didn’t know you could with a guitar.  Her vocal range is incredible and her songs, even the sad ones, are very uplifting.   She’s got a great sense of humour too.   I’d highly recommend getting her music or taking in her act if you can.  You can read all about Natalia here: http://www.nataliazukerman.com/

The night was terrific.  Many thanks to my gal pal Denise for inviting me out to share her love for folk music.   She took the train in from the South Shore and, bizarrely, met neighbors at Passim.  How weird is that.   Denise is growing by leaps and bounds lately in her life so a big shout out of love to ya gal! …. Both Denise and I were thinking of Sonia whilst we were folkin’ out at Passim and Denise told me Sonia was out protesting (?)  Okay Sonia if you are reading this what were you doing, exactly? …. Whilst dining our friend June text’d in to say she was still buried at work (on a Friday night?  I thought I was the only geek doing that?) so a big Beck’s Cafe HUG and MUG to our gal June; the hardest working, rock mama executive I know.  By the by, June is a big supporter of Fenway Health and she tells me that her recent tour of their new facility was amazing, impressive and welcoming.  So hop on over there too if you’ve got some coffee left in your mug

The Milky Way Lounge and Lanes is reopening!  If you have ever visited the old Milky Way Lounge and Lanes you know what this means!  The old one was downstairs in Jamaica Plain with a bar, dance floor and bowling ally!  I kid you not fair reader, they had 7 candlepin bowling lanes.  The new location has skee ball instead but hey fair enough.

The new one is at The Brewery 284 Amory Street Jamaica Plain MA 02130 (phone 617.524.3740).  This Friday, is the first Dyke Night at The Milky Way so that’s even more good since they donate 25%+ of Dyke Night profits to GLBT causes.

Oasis, from Google’s word definitions search page, it means:

  • a fertile tract in a desert (where the water table approaches the surface)
  • haven: a shelter serving as a place of safety or sanctuary
  • In geography, an oasis (plural: oases) is an isolated area of vegetation in a desert, typically surrounding a spring or similar water source. Oases also provide habitat for animals and even humans if the area is big enough.

Oasis is also an amazing coffee house with live music right in the heart or Waltham MA!

Housed in First Presbyterian Church of Waltham, Oasis is, in their own words:

is a welcoming community where you can enjoy an evening of affordable entertainment by local, national and international performers including singer-songwriters, folk musicians, blues, jazz and other genres.

Located in the art gallery of the First Presbyterian Church of Waltham, the space is intimate, safe, inclusive and alcohol-free. This not-for-profit coffee house, run by volunteers, offers a lounge area where baked goods and fair-trade coffee and tea are available along with free wi-fi. Proceeds go to support the coffee house and its performers.

And welcoming and warm they are! When a friend and I visited Oasis for the firs time in August, we were greeted at the door by some of the nicest people we had ever met. We were welcomed in, paid our admission ($12) and took a seat. The acoustics were terrific and the group we saw that night, Gretel, was amazing. During the band break, there was plenty of people to meet and chat with.

Gretel, a local Boston area folk group, is well worth tracking down to see. They have passion, strong musical skills and excellent words. Their songs are more stories than the simple drivel served up as music today. And powerful stories they are. Songs like “Heart Shaped Heart”, moved me to tears with words of how both love and pain leave hollow spaces in our hearts…sometimes so hollow they drive us to reassess our relationship. “Wolves” was a haunting tune that forebode some terror drawing ever closer as the song moves forward. Gretel’s lead singer, Reva Willimans’ voice and strong emotional content with each song remind me of Amy Mann but far more engaged. Reva is living through her music, not singing about a topic.

Oasis Coffee House features New England and National acts, is inexpensive, is warm and friendly. What’s not to like? For some local buzz, you can’t beat their offering.

Fenway Community Health Logo If you are transgender, transsexual, gender queer, gender non-conforming, a cross dresser, or anyone who crosses mainstream society’s notions of gender, Fenway Community Health offers a support group series, the T-Supper Club. A new 6 week group is starting up on September 23, 2008. Topics include community building, sexual health issues, stress management, personal expression and group dialog. The group is free and dinner is served each week. See their post at the Fenway Health site at this link here.

Register today by calling Alex at Fenway Health at 617-927-6449.

P.S.
We did a little highlight here @ Beck’s Cafe on Alex back in June 2007.   Alex is not just the transgender community liason at Fenway Health, he’s also an accomplished artist; you can read our quick profile on him with links to his art at our article, “Alex Solange – Art with Heart

Photo courtesy of the puzzle page at Drexel University Astronomer extraordinaire, and my friend, Sonia, has placed a new social and support group into the constellation of what we have in New England! She’s named it, T-Party, and you can reach her new venture by visiting her groups site HERE.

Those of us in the Boston area might wonder how this area can support yet another transgender group. Well, surprisingly, very easily. Lyn Conway actually did some statistical analysis not too long ago and even presented a paper on her work, you can read what she presented at the WPATH conference by clicking over to her article at her site HERE. In a nutshell, she found the prevalence of MtF transsexualism on the order of ~1:500 so let’s do some math :)

Greater Boston is home to 4.4M people. So, if we look at Lyn Conway’s findings, that means, if I have my math right, that there are 8800 trans-women in the Greater Boston area and, possibly, 1/2 that many trans-men. If we look at the entire transgender umbrella (crossdresser, drag queens, transsexuals, gender queer, etc.) there might be alot more but let’s just go with that figure of 8800 trans-women. Okay stay with me here for this next part.

I have heard, through the grapevine, that Dr. Richard Doctor has discovered in a study he led that only 70% of all crossdressers actually go outside their homes crossdressed and of that only a small percentage (5% perhaps ?) actually go to public venues (stores, restaurants, etc). I can’t find the any documentation where he said this but let’s just go with it.

If the above are true, then of the 8800 trans-women in this area, only 6160 actually venture out to trans-friendly events and of that only 300 or so go out in public, out and about. If we look at the 6160 number, the Greater Boston Area can easily support T-Party and all the other groups in this area.

Maybe we’ll have a cup of coffee with the star gazing Ms. Sonia at some point and understand what motivated her and what her dreams are for T-Party.

7/12/2008 Update
T-Party’s on-line presence for coordinating their doings has moved to TransSpace.    To reach their new site at TransSpace you can click over to them from our link here.

Fantasia Fair Early Registration Discounts for Fantasia Fair End Soon

If anyone is considering going to this year’s Fantasia Fair conference in October, you may want to register before March 1st. As of March, the early registration discount will no longer be available. If you are not sure if you can make it to this event, you can register now and get nearly a full refund if later on you have to cancel. Check out the Fantasia Fair website for details on the refund policy. The Fantasia Fair website is at http://www.fantasiafair.org.

As we wrote about in our last post here. We’ve had a few problems with Beck’s Cafe. But we’ve not let the writing go stale. Instead, we’ve been blogging at the First Event 2008 Blog under the byline of “FE2008″ We’ve been having some great conversations with some of the exhibitors and speaker’s of First Event. We’ll be posting more too. So while we are fixing the Cafe up, we’d invite you to have a read over at the First Event 2008 blog.

First Event 2008 is being held this year at the Boston Marriott Peabody, January 16-20, 2008. First Event is one of the largest transgender conferences in the United States, with attendance of 600 or more during the bone-chilling New England January.

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
November 2, 2007

Boston to honor Transgender Day of Remembrance
Vigil and Speak-Out, preceded by Town Hall Meeting, on Sunday, Nov 18

On Sunday November 18, Boston’s transgender community, with
family, friends and allies, will gather at the Arlington Street Church
to remember and honor transgender victims of violence. The
Remembrance observance will be preceded by an afternoon Town
Hall Meeting conducted by the Massachusetts Transgender Political
Coalition (MTPC).

The Transgender Day of Remembrance observance starts in the
Arlington Street Church sanctuary at 7PM. The program includes
invited speakers followed by a community speak-out, then a
candlelight vigil to Copley Square, returning to the church for a
warm-up reception.

Included this year will be a presentation about the honoring of Debra
Forte, a Haverhill transgender women murdered in 1995. A stone
bearing her name was placed this past fall in Boston’s Garden of Peace,
a memorial commemorating victims of homicide.

Starting at 3PM, all are welcome to MTPC’s Town Hall Meeting, for an
opportunity to hear from and speak with some of our state’s leading
transgender activists LGB allies. Each year MTPC holds this meeting to
inform the community about the work of MTPC and the state of
transgender rights in Massachusetts and at the Federal level. This
year’s keynote speaker is Representative Carl Sciortino, who will be
speaking about the pending Massachusetts legislation HB 1722, “An Act
Relative to Gender-Based Discrimination and Hate Crimes”.

MTPC will also be providing training and information on how to reach out
to and educate legislators about HB 1722 and the issues transgender
people face in Massachusetts. There will be presentations about MTPC’s
activities, followed by time for feedback and commentary. MTPC
particularly encourages those who want to learn more about
Massachusetts Transgender Political Coalition and/or HB 1722 to
attend the Town Hall Meeting.

Boston’s transgender and LGB community extends a warm welcome to all
who would like to attend this important event to memorialize our dead
and underscore the seriousness of the suffering of our communities.
No persons should be subjected to violence simply because of their
gender identity or expression. No persons should be denied the basic
rights that enable their safety and security. Please join with us on
this day to remember our dead, whatever the cause of their departure.

Co-sponsors of Boston’s Transgender Day of Remembrance include TransCend
of Cambridge Cares About AIDS, Keshet, BAGLY, GLSEN Boston, and MTPC.

For the latest list of sponsors and details about the day’s events,
please visit http://www.masstpc.org/dor

Event Background:
Eight years ago at this time, Boston’s LGBT community recoiled in
horror at the discovery of the latest victim of transphobic violence.
Rita Hester, a popular figure in the local rock `n roll scene, who
also happened to be a transsexual, had been found brutally stabbed to
death in her Brighton apartment. Like so many killings of gay and
transgender persons, the victim was subjected to enough brutality to
kill her many times over.

A local community of queer activists, rockers, family, friends and
allies – over 250 of them – came together and held a speak-out and
candlelight vigil in Rita’s honor, forming a human stream of light
winding its way through Rita’s old Brighton stomping grounds. One
year later, a memorial vigil was held in San Francisco; the following
year Boston and a few other cities joined in, and this year hundreds
of observances will be held in dozens of countries.

Boston’s transgender community remembers Chanelle Pickett, Debra
Forte, Monique Thomas, and Rita Hester, all of whom were more recent
local transgender victims of unusually violent and hateful murders.
Before these, there were many more, mostly uncounted and unnoticed by
all but their friends and family.

These events are free, open to everyone, and there will be limited
video/photo policy will be in place. For more information visit
www.masstpc.org. If your organization would like to become a sponsor
of TDOR or you would like to volunteer helping to organize the event
contact Nancy at nnangeroni@masstpc.org. If your organization would
like to sponsor the Town Hall meeting or you are member of the press
contact Gunner gscott@masstpc.org

The Neighborhood is billed as:

A space for all queer and transgender folks…We like mixed up spaces and so should you! Always femme, butch, gender varient, fairy, leather, & CD friendly

This place lives up to it’s billing and then some. The organizers, Gunner Scott of XGender productions see: http://www.Gendercrash.Com and dj d’hana of Cherub Productions, http://www.Myspace.Com/chubrubproductions have created a welcoming and high energy environment that is worth the trip to.

The vibe at The Neighborhood, which is held the second Saturday of the month at The Midway Cafe, located at 3496 Washington Street in Jamaica Plain is decidely good. I’m not sure there is a better way to describe it. Really good vibe. My co-conspirators and I met femme’s, butch’s, FtM’s, and straight folk just being themselves and having fun. Dj d’hana is an excellent DJ. She moved effortlessly from one music genre to the next mixing up hip hop, techno, 80’s and various other types of music in a style that kept the crowd on it’s feet and not bored. I remember standing with two other women, both femmes and an incredibly cute couple, and having just met and chattinng and hearing a smooth transition from a hip hop tune to The Cure’sJust Like Heaven“. All our eyes met and simultaneoulsly the three of us yelled out, ‘WE LOVE THIS SONG” and we just started spontaneously dancing. That typifies The Neighborhood “experience” for me. Fully accepting, packed, good vibe. To top it off, Gunner is one of the coolest guys around and donates part of the procedes from The Neighborhood to a charity every month. It doesn’t get any better than that.

Go visit the neighborhood. Get their by 9PM or you’ll end waiting in line out front to get in.

For more details see: http://www.myspace.com/theneighborhoodjp

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Updates
September 5, 2009:  GenderCrash site taken down.  You can still follow Gunner on Twitter @gendercrash

This is the fourth and final installment in a special four part series from an interview with Yvon Steel and June Casad on the Massachusetts transgender social and support group FoRCC, Friends of Randolph Country Club.   To easily reach part 3, please click here.  Please enjoy!

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BECK’S CAFE: So then Randolph Country Club came into the picture?

JUNE: Well that took work. Randolph Country Club, RCC, a premiere GLBT country club and dance club, had a bad relationship with the transgender community up until that point.

YVON: I visited them a couple of times to outline what we were trying to do and what the benefits were to them. They told me that their relationship with the transgender community had soured primarily due to lack of follow through on the transgender community’s part. It was common for transgender women in our community to plan an event with them and then not to actually hold the event or communicate about it. I had to convince them that the community was honorable and could be trusted.

JUNE: And we’ve done just that. We plan events with them for about every six weeks, we communicate with the RCC team, and we have our event. This has resulted in a benefit to RCC, to FoRCC and to the transgender community overall. We had to insure that we would be good patrons and good contributors to the benefit of RCC. The reception that the management and patrons now give the trans community has been overwhelmingly supportive and nice. Even the bathroom is a non-issue.

BECK’S CAFE: So, every six weeks FoRCC has a transgender party at RCC and you’ve been doing this all told for 10 years. What keeps you doing this?

JUNE: I remember what it was like to not have a place to go and in feeling isolated and alone. To the extent that I can provide an opportunity for others to come out and be themselves and really, to lead much healthier lives, that’s what motivates me.

YVON: My personal satisfaction is to produce something and watch it grow and see the results. The fruit is in the smiling faces; they are smiling not because they are drunk but because they are getting a chance to be who they are. It’s my chance to get out and I’m having a great time and I want others to as well. I don’t want it to stop I’m having fun!

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Copyright© 2005 – 2007 Beck’s Cafe, All rights reserved.

This is the third part in a special four part series from an interview with Yvon Steel and June Casad on the Massachusetts transgender social and support group FoRCC, Friends of Randolph Country Club. To easily reach part 2, please click here. Please enjoy!

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BECK’S CAFE: With that “walk out” certainly there must have been some sense of displacement or abandonment?

JUNE: Well, with the end of the relationship between Friends Landing and the transgender community something had to fill that void. So, a sort of entrpereneurial spirit was unleashed from the split and some new groups started forming. One of those was The Girl’s Night Out group, or GNO for short, which began in Manchester, New Hampshire. GNO’s approach was to provide a safe space for gender expression and have, as the founder, Maxine, was fond of saying, “The Courage to be Free”. Many girls did end up gravitating to GNO and GNO had a big, positive impact on the New England Transgender scene allowing many transgender women to come out and be free to be themselves.

YVON: FoRCC, or FoF at the time, needed a new place and we approached the Crowne Plaza in Woburn, and they suggested Friday Night. At the time, GNO wanted to merge with FoRCC (or FoF) group. We felt our group’s unique character and identity was still alive due to the real life relationships of people that grew out of this one little place.

JUNE: That’s right, many of us with FoRCC (FoF at the time) wanted to continue our group and keep it alive. The Yahoo Group kept us communicating and loosly together, as it had always been, we just needed to find a physical place. We weren’t against GNO, we just felt we had a unique group.

BECK’S CAFE: So did FoRCC every find a new place to meet?

YVON: We were alive, still looking for a home, and in March of 2006 the group was having a lot of hang wringing about going back to Friends Landing after the year long walk out.

JUNE: Friends Landing was part of my journey and I felt I had a right to be there. Some felt the same way, but not in general. I really felt that I deserved to be there but the good part about it was that the management had changed over the year and Friends was very welcoming to us.

YVON: This was a BIG surprise to all of us.

JUNE: I agree, I was expecting an attitude and had a hard time going in. But I was bound and determined to go there and even to use the ladies room. I didn’t feel like I had my begging bowl out. We were transgender and this was a GLBT club and that was that. I had a right to be there and so I went.

YVON: In a way the Friends Landing incident did us a favor. They got us out into the world MORE.

JUNE: Yes that’s right. That was the year we started going to other GLBT and Straight clubs that welcomed us. We learned we could come way out of the closet and just be ourselves.

YVON: When we came back to Friends Landing they were so happy to have us there they put our name and a big picture of us on the front of their web page, “Welcome back T-Girls” We returned in March of 2006, we had some big parties there and things were really cranking along fine until the 2006 Halloween party. It was a packed house and then on the Monday after the Halloween, with no notice, Friends Landing closed it’s doors and was sold.

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In Part four of this four part series, we’ll wrap up about how Yvon and June worked to heal a rift between the transgender community and the GLB part of the community so that FoRCC could find it’s new location. To easily reach part 4, please click here. Copyright© 2005 – 2007 Beck’s Cafe, All rights reserved.

This is the second part in a special four part series from an interview with Yvon Steel and June Casad on the Massachusetts transgender social and support group FoRCC, Friends of Randolph Country Club. To easily reach part 1, please click here. Please enjoy!

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BECK’S CAFE: How would you say that FoRCC has evolved over it’s 10 year life?

YVON: Well, FoRCC started as FoF, Friends of Friends Landing and was out at Friends Landing, in Haverhill, MA like we mentioned. We used a Yahoo Group for all of us to build connections outside of those meetings and stay in touch. In many ways, the Yahoo Group became the The Unofficial Friends Landing Message board. And it was a way to get people to know what was happening in each of our lives and who was going to go to be together at Friends Landing. Once in a while we’d do a roll call to create a more structured kind of meeting. But the evolution was more of one of closeted strangers who all came out to become friends.

JUNE: I’d agree. Over time what was just transgender people meeting in person and communicating online grew as friendships grew. It’s really a story of people isolated in their experience who became people connected in a shared experience of being transgender. They made friends at Friends Landing, grew into using the Yahoo Group to communicate and spilled out into real life. The Events weren’t all done at Friends Landing but sometimes happened at Jacques Cabaret or MANRAY. And that’s the interesting point. The group became interelated, invited others in, accepted them for what and who they are, and ended up having fun in the process.

YVON: Really the group grew and grew and became the focal point for THE Transgender SCENE in New England then one day it was gone. And it was really the result of one unfortunate incident.

BECK’S CAFE: You know, this “incident” is the stuff of folklore. What was the incident and how did it not only effect FoRCC but what were it’s effects, in your opinion, on the transgender scene in New England in general?

YVON: Well, at one point, Friends Landing became very trans-unfriendly and they instituted what amounted to a “vagina check’ for the ladies room and people just stopped going. You know, as transgender women, we present as women and using the right bathroom is a big deal. One key part of it is safety for us. Using a men’s bathroom presenting as a woman could put us in physical harm.

JUNE: I remember times at Friends Landing when bouncers would swarm t-girls if they felt what they wore for clothing was inappropriate even. They would harass someone like that out of the club. I had to intervene in one case. And then on St. Patrick’s Day 2005 the transgender community walked away from Friends Landing; tired of a GLBT club that had rejected us.

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In Part three of this four part series, we’ll talk about how the transgender community reacted to the Friends Landing incident.  To easily reach part 3, please click here. Copyright© 2005 – 2007 Beck’s Cafe, All rights reserved.

FoRCC, or Friends of Randolph Country Club, a Massachusetts transgender social and support group, was a lengthy interview Beck’s Cafe had with two Massachusett’s transgender-women who are leaders in the community; Yvon Steel and June Casad. There are many personal and group stories and courageous trans-women and trans-men, dating back to Stonewall, who have made being transgender just a little easier for many of us today. Jennifer Boylan, in her speech at Southern Comfort Conference 2006 last year, said that, “there are so many other stories out there, and they all desperately need to be told, so that all of our stories can become familiar”. This is just one of those many stories. This is a special four part series from this interview. Please enjoy!

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“One is taught by experience to put a premium on those few people who can appreciate you for what you are” – Gail Goodwin

Gail Goodwin’s quote may well be the story in one line of the transgender social and support group, the Friends of Randolph Country Club (FoRCC). This group, in existence for ten years, has typified that quote: appreciating others for who they are, as they are; not for who society believes they should be. Yvon Steel and June Casad are two of the founders of this long standing group. We caught up with them in the midst of their most recent event at The Randolph Country Club in Randolph, Massachusetts to learn more about this group and how their unique history is a part of the history of the transgender community in New England.

BECK’S CAFE: I’m glad we could finally get a chance to talk in the midst of this busy Fall season for you both.

YVON: Busy is right, with our event and so many others taking place in the Fall, life can seem like whirlwind

JUNE: We try to float through it. It’s busy but fun no question about that.

BECK’S CAFE: Can you tell our readers how the Friends of Randolph Country Club started?

YVON: FoRCC, as we like to call it, or the Friends of Randolph Country Club. We’ve been around continuously for ten years at least, since about 1997. It was originally started by a woman named Holly then when she left ownership was handed over to Diane, June, Brenda, and I came in later. We originally started meeting at Friends Landing in Haverhill and kept our connections alive through the use of a Yahoo group. The Yahoo group was a great tool for all of us to collaborate together and keep the group as a group. Actually the groups original name was FoF or Friends of Friends Landing.

BECK’S CAFE: Ten years is a long time, it may be that only Tiffany Club of New England has had a longer existence. What do you think is the reason the FoRCC Community has been able to last this long?

JUNE: FoRCC is really organic and changes over time. With a lot of other groups that have come and gone, usually they get a big splash right away and are really driven by one person with a vision and energy to make it happen. FoRCC on the other hand, while it began with Holly’s vision, it never really had to rely on her singular person to make it happen. It was a sort of infectious need the transgender community felt and got behind. We never had a lot of rules or moderating either in our group meetings or in our online Yahoo group. It’s just been a place where people have felt safe to come out. And we’ve always supported people who have done that.

YVON: That’s true June. We found that our group culture just thrived on being more relationally in touch. It became clear to us that we were less “leaders” in the group as much as we were “facilitators” of this group. We saw that too many rules and one person in charge would stifle what was blossoming. We never wanted to have that. As long as people were respectful of each other anything was okay.

JUNE: We have never tried to moderate the content of our Yahoo Group or our in person meetings but when things have been deemed offensive and disrespectful we just simply squash what is happening and move on.

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In Part two of this four part series, we’ll talk about the historic incident that changed much of the transgender landscape in Massachusetts today. To easily reach part 2 please click here. Copyright© 2005 – 2007 Beck’s Cafe, All rights reserved.

If you plan on going to Fantasia Fair in Provincetown, MA, October 10 -14, but are facing a little pinch in your pocketbook, you can apply for a scholarship :) See details at this link: http://www.fanasiafair.org/scholarships.asp

Here’s the full press release:

July 1, 2007

For Immediate Release

Scholarships Available for Fantasia Fair 2007

http://www.fantasiafair.org/Press.asp

The Fantasia Fair Planning Committee will be awarding scholarships to the 33rd annual Fantasia Fair, to be held October 14 – 21 in historic Provincetown, Massachusetts. Scholarship recipients will receive free tuition to the Fair, including all seminars, workshops, and events, 12 meals, and shared room accommodations for seven nights. Recipients will be responsible for their own transportation to and from Provincetown.

“We’re proud to make this announcement,” said Fair Director Dallas Denny. “Fantasia Fair is a wonderful conference. We want to reach out especially to the young people who will be the future leaders of our community, and especially to FTMs. We’ve worked hard to keep Fair prices low, but we understand some people can’t afford to go to any conference. These awards are just one way to make our conference accessible to some who could benefit from attending but couldn’t otherwise come.”

Scholarships are open to individuals of all ages who demonstrate financial need.

Applicants should submit a statement of financial need and a letter explaining why they want to attend Fantasia Fair. Applicants will be selected to receive awards by the Fantasia Fair Planning Committee.

Eligibility Requirements

* Age over 18 (or parental permission if under 18) * Demonstrated financial need (applications will be considered on an individual basis) * Submission of a “Why I Want to Come to Fantasia Fair” letter * Receipt of materials by 31 July, 2007

Fantasia Fair Planning Committee Members and their families and friends are not eligible for scholarships.

Rules for Scholarship Awards

1) Submit a letter entitled “Why I Want to Come to Fantasia Fair.” There are no limitations for length or style. You can be creative just as long as you are convincing.

2) Submit a letter, note, or other materials demonstrating your financial need; in other words, tell the committee how your financial situation prevents you from coming to Fantasia Fair.

3) Applicants under 18 years of age must include a document giving parental consent.

4) Following the 31 July deadline, the Fantasia Fair Planning Committee will evaluate all submissions. Those who have not, in the Committee’s judgment, demonstrated financial need will be excluded from further consideration. “Why I Want to Come to Fantasia Fair” letters will then be read and rated. Awards will be given to the candidates who, in the judgment of the Committee, most convincingly demonstrate their desire to attend Fantasia Fair.

5) Contest winners will be notified on or about 15 August, 2007.

6) An announcement that the awards have been made will be released to transgender news sources on 15 August, 2007 and will be posted on the www.fantasiafair.org website although the names of scholarship recipients will not be made public.

7) In the event that a winner is not able to attend Fantasia Fair or declines the scholarship, the first runner-up will be notified immediately.

Please submit your materials by the July 31st deadline to:

scholarships@fantasfair.org

or

Fantasia Fair

P.O. Box 33724

Decatur, GA 30033-0724

When you submit your materials, please make sure to include a postal address, email address, or phone number for the Fantasia Fair Planning Committee to use to contact you. If you provide a phone number, please mention what name to ask for.

I met Alex Solange at a conference, First Event 2007, and then at an event he developed and ran for the transgender community in Boston for Fenway Community Healty. I was touched by his humor and down to earth, easy going manner. He’s quite a guy. So I was not surprised to learn that he’s also an artist.

A very accomplished artist in fact.

You can see his remarkable art at his site, Solangeart. You can reach Solangeart by visiting his site at this iinik here.

You can also SEE his art, in person at two locations. The first, is an Open Exhibit running July 28- to Aug 30, 2006 at Rumbas Nightclub, in Lowell MA, (978) 970-2005 (see the Yahoo listing by clicking to Yahoo at this tinyurl link here: http://tinyurl.com/yogb7f )

The second place you can see his art is TONIGHT, June 21st, at his exhibit:

Alex Solange Art Reception
June 21, 2007
5:30PM to 9:00PM

The MALE Center
571 Columbus Avenue
Boston, MA 02118
617.450.1987

So come by and see some heartfelt art from a local artist who’s making a difference.

Fenway Health’s Transgender Health Program is starting a new support
group series, the “T-Supper Club.” The first six-week group starts on Tuesday
June 5th and runs weekly from 6:30-8:30pm.

If you’re transgender, transexual, gender queer, gender non-conforming,
cross dresser, or anyone who crosses mainstream society’s notions of
gender, Fenway Community Health offers a new support group series, the
“T-Supper Club.”

The first six-week group is forming now!

Topics include: community building, sexual health issues, stress
management, personal expression, and group dialog.

The group is free and dinner is served each week.

The first group starts on Tuesday June 5th and runs weekly from
6:30-8:30pm.

For more information or to register call Fenway Health’s Transgender
Program Coordinator, Alex, at Fenway Health 617-927-6449 or email him at
asolange@fenwayhealth.org

For more information on Fenway Health you can visit their site at this link HERE.