Thank you for leaving your comment. I think my grandmother sees her life as unchanged. She strives to live the life she once had despite her heart attack and to live it as if things have not changed. Of course they have. She is actually back in her home now, having determined, for herself, that it’s time to return. She says on the one hand she hopes she never lives to be 100 and yet is sure she will.

Looking at her life transition as a mirror of mine, I’d have to say that she sees a life that shouldn’t have to be limited and yet is and she is trying to learn to be flexible in the midst of that. By that I mean, flexible to knowing how to do the things she used to do easily but now must find workarounds to accomplish. That’s a big change for her and very frustrating at times.

Thanks for reading Sharon

Becki

What a wonderful perspective you’ve shared. And knowing you as I do, I can feel all of the emotion between the lines, as you struggle with the best course of action for your family.

I am really curious what your grandmother would say. Does she see the same conflicts in her own life that you do? Does she feel that same push/pull to be wherever she isn’t or is the picture much clearer for her. I mean, how could she not miss your French toast in the morning and the feeling of joy that comes from you simply walking into the room.

Being trans, I think it’s sometimes easy to think we are the only ones who face life altering challenges. Thank you being sensitive enough to recognize and gifted enough to share that we are not at all alone. Rather, there is a ying and a yang in all of our lives that makes them all so very challenging at one time or another In your grandmother’s case she is so very lucky to have you squarely on her side. But then again, isn’t that what friends are for?

All my best, Sharon