The Bitch in the House

I’ve been reading a book called, “The Bitch in the House” for the past few months (yeah I’m slow) and I would highly recommend this book. The basic premise is as the title states: 26 Women Tell the Truth About Sex, Solitude, Work, Motherhood, and Marriage.

And it does exactly that.

It’s a no hold barred look at:

• the angst of being a woman and wanting to be liberated and yet feeling intense guilt that she’s not the star hostess she perceived her mother always was.

• the choices women make to be in love and to have children and in how they do that and negotiate that. This will surprise you.

• the anger women feel deep down at how they are seen and even how they see themselves at work vs at home and how that effects them.

It’s a very good book to get a sense for how some women feel today about some very basic life issues and life choices as well. There are some short comings and that’s the point about this book being about “some” women and not all. Virtually all of the writers are just that, professional writers. So we don’t have stories from women who live on the farm and grew up in that community and what they think of life and their choices. We don’t necessarily have the views of women in poverty either. I’m sure there are works in that area for sure, but this is not necessarily one of them.

Overall the book is very good. You’ll learn aspects of women’s lives you didn’t know and many of which you’ll likely to be able to relate to. This is especially true if your a transgender women. Many times it’s the outward expressions that get focused on due to safety and acceptance factors. Sometimes something as basic as getting a job is predicated on if you pass or if you don’t. And let’s face it, having a job and paycheck beat living on the street any day. But it’s our hearts that matter most and from that springs your true life. And people can see that. I can assure you that if you read and think on the stories and lessons from reading “The Bitch in the House” your heart will be changed too.