January 2006

Well I’ve been away from blogging for a bit (no kidding Becki!) but it’s for a good reason, it was to attend this year’s annual First Event. Generally speaking, First Event, put on by TCNE, a local gender advocacy group here in Boston, is the first gender event of the year (hence the name). It was a particularly important point in my life this year as I actually physically went outside dressed and presenting as who I am, in my correct gender, as a woman. Having Gender Identify Disorder (GID), that is, being a transgendered person, is a very niggling issue for many of us. It’s something you wrestle with constantly trying to figure out what is wrong with you. Sometimes, you deal with it in unfortunate ways, through alcohol, drug addiction or other addictive behavior patterns to dull it; sometimes you just give up and commit suicide (we have too many of those, they make us all very sad). But the only real way to deal with it successfully is to accept it, look at your options, and take your options one step at at time.

The point of First Event though is to bring together the various groups
in the transgender community to talk about a variety of issues and have
some fun Afterall, that’s an important part of being a whole person! I think the seminars with the most impact to me were the ones on marriage (how to keep one intact) and on employment discrimination and how to deal with that. I’ll post more on both later since both were outstanding.

Oh one of the highlights for me was meeting this person here. Who would know she would not only be the worlds most bestest undiscovered beat reporter, but just a genuinely nice person. No doubt she kicked butt on the pool tables in the after hours!

I have to love living in New England. During the past week we’ve had a sort of January thaw where it’s been between 40 and 50 degrees F. Very mild for this time of year here. Now, it’s 20 F. It is freezing here.

Time for one of these:

(Photo courtesy of creative commons and wikipedia)

Oh and Godiva Hot Chocolate is awesome. But then so is the old standby Swiss Miss

Oh and while your drinking your hot chocolate, Viren has a fun page on the same topic, aptly titled “Hot Chocolate” you can sneak over to it by clicking here.

Helen Boyd is the author of one of the best books on dealing with living with someone with who is transgendered from the spouse’s (most particularly the wife’s)  perspective.  If your married, I can’t emphasize enough how important it is to understand your spouse’s point of view, it goes a long way to helping  you both communicate on your very real transgender (GID) issues.  Whether your male-to-female or female-to-male I’d suggest you take a look at her book.  This book was very important to me in understanding my wife’s point of view.  For my wife, she was able to at last read something from another genetic woman who’s husband is transgendered and who did not necessarily think their situation was all "wonderful" nor all "terrible".  It’s well researched, well written, and well worth reading.   

Helen’s journal, (en)gender, is at this link here.

You can buy the book from Amazon at this link here.

64-bit desktop computing (for the rest of us, not the tech weenies) is starting to really make a surge. I had posted here about 64-bit computing asking the question if any of us really needed it, and how we might get some bargains in the meantime on older 32-bit computers. Back then, I had the opinion that most of us won’t need 64-bit computing, however, the times are changing, and for the Frugal Tech, you dollar can go further on your tech purchases.

What we are talking about of course is the seemingly epic struggle between Intel and AMD for control (or at least a reasonable split) of the computing desktops and compute server racks of the IT World. On one side, we’ve got Intel with it’s approach to the market and on the other AMD with it’s approach. They are both driving everyone to 64-bit (even if the software applications are not quite available yet).

For the technically inclined, please note benchmarks at C/net at this link here
Our friends in Russia (and now also the U.S.) at X-Bit labs have run some benchmarks as well and you can see those at this link here.

First, the punch line - AMD Athlon64 based computers at 64-bit are hands down better than their Intel counterparts. On price, performance, and on the lesser considered but equally important issues of power consumption and thermal dissipation (how much heat the chips give off) AMD’s Athlon64 processors are just a better bargain.

So let’s talk about why you should care, what you might do about it, and, most importantly for the Frugal Tech, how it effects your purse.

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   I make no bones about the fact I love older movies. I have nothing against newer ones, I just like to find the fun niches in the older ones. The buried treasure if you will

When you have sick children, one of the nicest things you can do for them is just be with them. This is no small feat at times! The to do list is on your mind, that project needs to get done…

Well, I got a chance this weekend to do both of the above nice things, revisit an old movie and make sure one my sick children felt better while watching Disney’s “The Little Mermaid”, based on the story by Hans Christian Andersen (see link here). If you haven’t seen this one in a while you should! If you’ve never seen it you really have to. The animation is the older two dimensional approach that Disney built it’s reputation on and it’s done very well. However, what sets the story apart is the story line. It’s amazing how good it is - even today.

Some of my favorite parts are:

• The heroine, Ariel’s, spunky character and her deep need to be someone decidedly different from who she is currently
• Sebastian, the crab, as sidekick and babysitter
• The theme of sacrifice for the one you love
• The great music!!
• The fact it’s just plain fun and romantic

So grab that cocoa, blanket and the one you snug with and have a look, you’ll be happy you did

Over at the totally fabulous and informative blog, Multidimensional Me, Koan Bremner posted a bit of a challenge to everyone to find their "mantra".   My initial thought was the well known mantra used in yoga meditation -  "Ommm" - but I’m far too fidgety to sit around in the lotus position repeating that (hence my short lived past involvement with yoga).  But what she really meant was a sort of one-line personal philosophy.  A summation of what you want your life to be characterized by in 2006.

I thought this was a smashing idea (in Boston we’d say that’s a wicked cool idea, but smashing is more in keeping here with my post).  SO what’s mine?

It is,  "Just be yourself".  That’s really it for 2006, I just want to be myself.  That takes a great deal more work than you’d think on the surface, (as I’m slooowly learning), but, for me in 2006, that’s actually a very good goal.

You can read how Koan threw the gauntlet down on personal mantra’s at this link here.

When I made this I thought, "they will hate it".  I have no idea why I thought that, I think it was the odd mixture of onions, garlic and olives and how those simply do not mix with children.   Then, as I was making this dish, and the wonderful aromas were wafting from my kitchen kingdom through the rest of our house, I heard the peep every chef loves to hear,  "hey what’s that smell, it smells sooo good".    Well, my confidence shored up, I drove ahead in making this dish.  The recipe is courtesy of "Make it in Minutes" a Weight Watchers cookbook (you can check out the cookbook at this link here).  A ragout, for your general cooking trivia knowledge, is French for "A well-seasoned meat or fish stew, usually with vegetables".  This one uses chicken and it is heavenly (especially on a cold night). 

Click on for the fabulous taste treat!

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